Do you love yourself?

This is just the beginning of my presentation about discovering the beauty within you from my next radio show, on April 16th and 20th.

Did you ever think that you don’t love yourself enough? Or you are among those who consider that showing affection and appreciation to yourself is an immoral and nonspiritual act and the only duty of the spiritual seeker is to love others and neglect himself?

Well, if you think like this, and many people actually do, you might be wrong. There are some authors, like Lise Bourbeau, who is the founder of the most famous school of personal development from Quebec, Canada, who says that illnesses are signals which the body triggers in order to warn us that we don’t love ourselves sufficiently. In other words, the crowded hospitals and clinics can be considered as a barometer of how much people love themselves nowadays. Many of us dream to find our soul mate, the perfect relationship which we expect to fill the void from our heart and heal all our emotional wounds. And yet, we totally neglect basically our entire life, someone who is much closer and yearns for our love: ourselves. Some other authors and psychologists even consider that we can’t expect to have healthy and happy relationships with others, unless we have a healthy and a happy relationship with ourselves first.

Self-transfiguration and the manifestation of a just love for ourselves are essential on a spiritual path. But they are not easy to achieve.

The love we refuse to give to ourselves, we refuse to give to others as well. The wounds we create through a loveless attitude towards ourselves, will reflect in our relationships with the outer world as well. Refusing to love yourself means to deny that all beings deserve your love, including you.

When we start to accept and love ourselves exactly the way we are, suddenly, many of the aggressions which we used to consider coming from outside, disappear. This is due to the fact that the outer violence needs our aggressive mind in order to reach the inner surface of our consciousness; otherwise it will only generate compassion.  

By contrary, an aggressive mind towards ourselves, can create severe wounds through: helpless thoughts, discouragement, inferiority complexes, fears or violent reactions. If these feelings are maintained for longer periods of time, they will gain power and will put us in resonance with some inferior planes through which we will continue to hurt ourselves constantly, as long as this resonance will be maintained.

How can we break away from this circle of suffering? Through the just love for ourselves. This means, not falling into the egotist trap of narcissism or vanity. No. This means, first of all to overcome the preconceived idea that “It is not moral or necessary to love myself.” This is in the beginning just a pretext for the fear of recognizing that we are not yet capable to love ourselves. Love is always a proof of inner nobleness, whether is oriented outwards or inwards. It requires courage, devotion, giving and expansion of the consciousness.

Grieg – my spiritual mentor says that “Love is an euphoric expansion of our consciousness from finite to infinite” and “Love is the greatest amongst all human joys, because it’s the supreme effort that the human being makes in order to escape from the loneliness of his inner being.”

Join me and find out more!

I honor the divinity within you! Namaste!

With love,

Delia